I was awakened this morning by the person who made me a mom -- and I'm going to share all the gory details.
No X-rating here. This person was Crystal, Tessa's birthmom (she's OK with this term, so I use it when referring to her).
Crystal chirped into to phone, "Happy Mother's Day to the best mom in the world!" Which means a lot, coming from the mom of Ty -- one of the best behaved 10 year-olds I've ever met.
We caught up with each other...her work is going well and she loves living independently with Ty in their own place. She's crazy-busy and loving it.
As always, we revisit the chain of events that brought us together. We talk about Tessa's school, her bike-riding, her swim lessons, the latest examples of her will of steel and tendency for drama. Crystal always offers sympathy that I am raising a daughter who is just like she was.
And she is grateful. Six years after we met, Crystal still feels that raising Tessa in the toxic environment that was Crystal+Joe (birth father) would have been disastrous for all three of them -- and Ty. She insists we are much better equipped to deal wish such a willful, impulsive child than she was.
I hope she's right. Tessa's nature is definitely different from my own. I get the willful part (ask my mom), but impulsiveness it not one of my own traits. As I raise Tessa with our nurture, I strive to be aware of her nature, and to successfully merge the two.
To Crystal and Michele, to my own Mom and Lisa, to GG and Grandma (two RIPs), to my aunts Deni and Pattie and Mrs D (mother figures who continue to bless me) -- I honor you on this day.
Sunday, May 13, 2007
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3 comments:
To the keeper of the blog, Joe and Dorian are thinking of you and yours :-) see you soon. HA! I showed up and read..I love the blog!! give an extra sqeeze to the Kiddies for me!
I am always in awe of your style of writing Lori. Always in awe of your point of view, which has helped me vicariously live through your family. This prepared me for my own family's present situation. Finally our long awaited grandchild, "AJ" came to us in January 07! He is real, he is adopted, he is equal to my other two grandchildren. I thank God everyday for this incredible child that chose my son and daughter in law to be his parents. Only thing that I don't understand is why he took so long to do this! lol. Continued success in family matters. You have only just begun! Warm Regards, Saundra of RRBBS.com
Joe and Dorian -- HA backatcha!
Hope your Mother's Day was wonderful!
Saundra -- you so joyfully appreciate your blessings as a mom and grandma. Glad to have you visiting here!
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